Anger issues. To a greater or lesser degree we all have them. And the challenge with Anger is that when you don’t control it, it controls you. And that is hugely destructive for us emotionally and for everything else in our lives. Fact. Now It might surprise you to know that even though I am … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – Taming your temper to allow your anger become your greatest ally
This week I posted the “If I held a Ted Talk what would you expect it to be about” meme on Facebook. And of course as a coach there were many suggestions about personal development. But the answer that made me scream with laughter was ‘ Effective Communication Through Swearing’ !! This person knows me … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – Why swearing can be good for effective communication
When people understand each other amazing and inspiring things can happen. Unfortunately the reverse of that statement is also true. When we don’t understand each other negative and sometimes destructive things happen. Relationships and conflicts, whether at home or professionally can be a minefield. And often it is one of our own making. (Now if … Continue reading It’s so much easier when we talk! -Taking the difficult conversations
As some of you may have noticed, over the last month or so things have not been hunky dory in our world. In fact far from it. Since September I have been fighting for a project to work out that really meant the make or break of my career goals that I have been working … Continue reading #lifelessons101 : Sometimes surrendering the fight is the way to win the fight
Over the last few weeks I have been in the strange position to be surrounded by people who can not, or choose not to communicate openly about their feelings. I have seen people suppressing painful emotions, people refusing to believe the reality before them, people happily complaining about another person, but not clearly communicating with … Continue reading A gift from autism -How to be honest with yourself and others
Yesterday my work life just went FUBAR (And for those you not in the know that means Fucked up beyond all recognition.) Needless to say it was a bad day. It has been a long time since I cried solidly for an hour. However despite how I was feeling I still had a job to … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – Tell me something good – How the power of a good story can turn your day around
We have all experienced the feeling of being insulted or verbally attacked. Whether the playground jibes, a loved one lashing out. And often is can be easy to forgive and forget. However some insults, some exchanges affect us so deeply that weeks later we are still feeling the insult and the consequent pain. In these … Continue reading How to recover from a verbal attack and turn the pain into wisdom
Humans love drama. We do. Our entire entertainment system is built upon that fact. On the big screen, in the tabloids, we revel in emotionally and intellectually demanding situations and stories. We indulge in the details, the ups and downs of other people’s lives. The most enjoyable part in this is that we can disengage, … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – How to help a friend without getting caught in drama
This week I had the horrible experience of having an unexpected conflict with an almost stranger. I had begun a new contract and one of the employees I was working with decided to be very angry with me in public. I held my ground. Kept things civil. And managed to bring the conversation to a … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – Recovering quickly from a conflict at work in 8 minutes
Who among us enjoys having arguments? Not me, not anyone I imagine. However, unfortunately, they are part of the human condition. To fight is part of human nature. We can’t escape that fact. Arguments whether at home or at work often follow the same pattern. The tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, … Continue reading Stopping the destructive argument spiral and find solutions quickly