Yesterday my world got shaken. And now I am sitting here in the after shock not knowing how to cope, my heart and mind a whirlwind of grief, saddness, guilt and loss. Because yesterday I lost my best friend. My beloved cat Dougal. Usually when I write my blog I talk to you guys about … Continue reading Yesterday I lost my best friend – yes, my Cat- Mitaku Oyasin
Who can forget the iconic film Pay it forward from 2000? (And if you haven’t seen it please put it on this weekend's watch list.) The whole concept of this film was simply about responding to acts of kindness by paying it forward and bing kind to someone else. It’s a beautiful life philosophy and … Continue reading Pay it forward, change the world and feel better about yourself
Anger issues. To a greater or lesser degree we all have them. And the challenge with Anger is that when you don’t control it, it controls you. And that is hugely destructive for us emotionally and for everything else in our lives. Fact. Now It might surprise you to know that even though I am … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – Taming your temper to allow your anger become your greatest ally
One of my favourite scenes from Harry Potter is when Harry and Co go to St Mungo’s on Christmas day. Where the welcome witch was trying to sort out all patients who had a magical injury due to a family Christmas day dispute! It seems in the magical world as well as our own not … Continue reading How to survive the family Christmas!
When people understand each other amazing and inspiring things can happen. Unfortunately the reverse of that statement is also true. When we don’t understand each other negative and sometimes destructive things happen. Relationships and conflicts, whether at home or professionally can be a minefield. And often it is one of our own making. (Now if … Continue reading It’s so much easier when we talk! -Taking the difficult conversations
Over the last few weeks I have been in the strange position to be surrounded by people who can not, or choose not to communicate openly about their feelings. I have seen people suppressing painful emotions, people refusing to believe the reality before them, people happily complaining about another person, but not clearly communicating with … Continue reading A gift from autism -How to be honest with yourself and others
Breakups are the worst. Not much more to say about that. The healing process after can be really tough if you have spent so long being us that you can’t remember how to be me. After a break up you can feel a bit lost at first. Over the years, your thoughts and lifestyle patterns … Continue reading #Lifelessons101 – Finding your identity after a break up
If you follow my blog regularly you will know I have a source of inspiration from my vulcan-esque muse,my stoic partner and love of my life Mr T. He has this innate ability to take some of the biggest topics of debate and simmer them down with logic to an infallible, indisputable sentence. And this … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – True Love isn’t meant to be easy – the difference between romantic and real true love
We have all experienced the feeling of being insulted or verbally attacked. Whether the playground jibes, a loved one lashing out. And often is can be easy to forgive and forget. However some insults, some exchanges affect us so deeply that weeks later we are still feeling the insult and the consequent pain. In these … Continue reading How to recover from a verbal attack and turn the pain into wisdom
Humans love drama. We do. Our entire entertainment system is built upon that fact. On the big screen, in the tabloids, we revel in emotionally and intellectually demanding situations and stories. We indulge in the details, the ups and downs of other people’s lives. The most enjoyable part in this is that we can disengage, … Continue reading #lifelessons101 – How to help a friend without getting caught in drama